I am Accepted.

Written by: Charity Ann Naylor-Schmidt

Full Definition of THRIVE

1: to grow vigorously: flourish:

2: to gain in wealth or possessions: prosper

3: to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances — often used with on <thrives on conflict> — thriv·er \ˈthrī-vər\ noun

Love, I mean real true love, is so hard to come by these days. It seems like it so conditional, like you do this thing and then I will love you or show you any kind of affection, (usually the negative kind of affection) that is just evil.

We were created to show positive love and affection to each other and to our Heavenly Father until the enemy perverted it and made it conditional. It seems like the world is becoming loveless, and that people are becoming heartless, cold hearted, and hard hearted.

Our children are being made into punching bag for the ways that those adults have been treated in their youth. It’s a disgrace to mankind. It saddens and sickens me.

I believe in cutting the chains of negative influences, neglect is what we as adults are responsible for doing for our next generations lives.

Has the world already come to this? We need a Great Awakening not only in the United States but, all over the World.

1 Corinthians 13

Love

1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a ringing gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have absolute faith so as to move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and exult in the surrender of my body, but have not love, I gain nothing.

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. 6Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices in the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be restrained; where there is knowledge, it will be dismissed. 9For we know in part, and we prophesy in part, 10but when the perfect comes, the partial passes away.

11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I set aside childish ways. 12Now we see but a dim reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love.

PART 2

This world is full of animosity towards each other it is sad, and it almost makes me sick to my stomach. When I see and hear mothers and fathers these days calling their children foul language and foul names, like you little F’ ers and not showing them love.

The children that are being neglected by parents that are not available either willingly or unwillingly emotionally and physically are usually the ones that end up growing up without the security, nurturing, and confidence shown by our parents and guardians that should have been shown to them in their youth years. So, this is what happens when they all go searching for those elements, like positive nurturing words of uplifting affirmations, and positive affections, that were needed at the time of early development right after the birth. Not having the confidence within themselves causes low-self-esteem which can in most cases lead to failure in that person’s life.

These problems can lead to severe depression, despair, anxiety, bitterness, resentment, hatred (rage), murder and suicide.

Part 3

The essential elements of security, nurturing, and confidence that I spoke of in Part 1, are extremely vital in our lives without these elements in one’s life, those people that build their foundations of their future on weak, weary, and fearful building blocks without the positive and vital elements spoken of really are needed from birth and needed even more through their adolescent years, can end up crumbling leading their lives right to rock bottom. These young adults become confused, insecure, and without any real future outlook on their lives. This also can cause these young adults to become aimless and without knowing their own true identity or purpose for their future lives. This can contribute to not having the thrive to live. The children that have their lives built on fear, neglect, and hatred (anger) are the children that are most likely to start seeking other ways of finding the acceptance and love really needed in their lives. Those children are usually the ones that have structured futures in adulthood as well rounded and mostly successful individuals, that find love and acceptance they need to continue to thrive.

Part 4

The early years of one’s life are the most vulnerable and the most critical time for positive affection and nurturing. When the proper building blocks are laid down for the building of strong and sturdy foundations. Those children that have their unconscious and conscious mind connected in the joy center and happiness center of their brains from the positive bonds of family usually can withstand the blows of lives ups and downs.

Those young children and young adults that were not opened up to the proper elements through positive bonding, start learning how to accept those things that are not negative elements/influences for their building blocks and foundations to be built on.

Negative alternatives seem to creep into these individuals lives because of their vulnerability, absence of those true elements, and without the proper positive influences that they needed for their building blocks that were or were not available as these children developed from infants to young adulthood. The foundations that are slowly being built still are not as sturdy as they should be. These people develop through life believing that the building blocks that were available to start the building of their foundations were truth and the right way to live. When in all reality they were lies, fantasy, and disillusions.

Part 5

The foundations crack and become really worn down. Life’s circumstances, situations, and consequences are meant to help mold our character as the trials and tribulations keep shaking the foundations, they become more and more cracked, crumbled, and unsteady.

So, those foundations either will continue through self-sabotage in that individual’s life, or the foundations will sway and take the resistance by learning how to problem solve and reach out of their comfort zones for necessary help. Then those people may start to gradually become trusting to positive resources and supports or they will become closed off to themselves and to the world, the destruction of those building blocks are now affected, and the foundations are then left in ruins with no resistance to withstand the blows of life.

These people sometimes have been lied to for so long that they just become crippled from trying to trust in help that they thought was the true proper help they need that that time in their life. When in all reality it was that wrong type of help that they end up receiving.

Some of these people remain stuck or crippled for long periods of time because of the effects of traumas, lack of structure, false elements, and or no education of these people’s problems by professionals or by family and loved ones. Lack of communication, and of education on any kind of issues that should have been nipped in the bud in the child’s early development of these children’s lives.

When those children were in their infancy or young childhood is when that child actually could have been more resistant to the positive and negative influences and helped to learn that right ways to cancel out the wrong and negative ways that were placed in their lives.

Most people don’t even know what the problems and issues are or were in their lives, that still need or needed to be fixed, and not knowing how to fix those problems or how to ask for support, or they might not even have the determination or thrive to trust people or to even seek those positive supports.

Knowing what supports will truly help them and lead them to their healing is one of the biggest challenges to face and conquer first in that person’s life.

They say that knowledge is power, well I have to say as long as it is positive knowledge and not negative knowledge it can change everything.

Knowing is half the battle, to each other and to our Heavenly Father until the enemy perverted it and made it conditional. It seems like the world is becoming loveless, and that people are becoming heartless, cold hearted, and hard hearted.

Our children are a punching bag for the ways that those adults have been treated in their youth. It’s a disgrace to mankind. It saddens and sickens me.

Has the world already come to this? We need a Great Awakening not only in the United States but, all over the World.

Part 6

As those individuals mentioned in parts 4 and 5 try to thrive to live their own lives, they need to learn how to withstand the blows of life’s ups and downs, some people feel the blows of life within their deepest parts of their beings. Then they start becoming mentally, emotionally, and physically affected.

Learning proper communication, coping skills, how to make healthy decisions/choices and asking for help from a healthy support system.

Sometimes these individuals also that don’t learn healthy coping skills and having healthy social support often end up being Hospitalized.

Being stuck in Stuck Disorder (this is when your mind gets stuck in the same traumatic thinking of fight, flight and freeze mode over and over again.)

STUCK DISORDER- https://kucnews.com/how/stuck-person-syndrome-how-is-the-disorder-a-disability-174182.html

When individuals become hospitalized for too long over 1 or more years in a Mental Health Facility or a Correctional Facility, they become Institutionalized. This means that have given up on their own free will to cope and function on their own thinking and decision making.

Part 7

It even can cause turmoil and disturbances in their emotions and mind, some of the traumas that individuals go through with the disorder and the diagnoses they have been diagnosed with keep being triggered, flashbacks still occur most of the time deepening despair and anxiety in their being that need extra therapy with medications to help minimize the effects of the flashbacks that are linked to complex emotional disorders.

These affects can become too much to bare for some people. There are positive ways of healing from these affects it does take some time to rebuild and renew the thinking patterns that had already deepened in the grooves of their mind, sort of the like the grooves on a record that plays itself repeatedly without knowing how to change or target the problems that were wrong with the recording the brain thinking patterns.

Even through our bodies, minds, and emotions try to keep repairing themselves through the triumphs are still not enough to help rebuild the already ruined building blocks and foundations.

Part 8

The affects are known in the Medical World and by Doctors and Therapists are trained to recognize and understand the depression and anxiety (panic attacks), despair, suicidal and homicidal thoughts, P.T.S.D.- (Post Traumatic Stress Disorders) mental and emotional disorders/ breakdown (nervous breakdown), schizophrenia, bi-polar, different syndromes, and different disorders.

They find a name to label us so that they have a diagnosis to medicate us for. We are automatically used as Guinea Pigs for their own control and benefits. The Doctor’s will medically drug us with prescriptions that sometimes help and mostly don’t help us to learn how to get through these traumas and chemical reactions in our brains, and bodies.

Most of the side-effects of these medications are more dangerous than the natural way of positive alternative medicines (like talk therapy, positive exercise, vitamins, minerals, and herbals).

These Doctor’s sometimes also use Electro Convulsive Therapy (E.C.T. treatments) also which can have harmful side-effects to your brain as well.

Here is a Link to learn more about this therapy. https://www.mhanational.org/ect

The sad thing is that the drug companies don’t want us to do the alternatives and speak they raw against them because of the money the industry brings in. These side-effects bring us death to our liver, kidneys, intestines, stomach, heart, strokes, brain, seizures, diseases, tumors, blood clots, heart attacks, central nervous system issues, and cancers.

I know this all for a fact because I have been through most of what I have spoken about in all the previous chapters myself.

Part 9

The same individuals that are in the rebuilding process of the building blocks that were not sturdy and unsteady from the beginning and still are not steady enough have more work to do to keep focused on the next steps forward in their management and recovery processes.

Those effects in addition to medications and side-effect damage of those meds. and traumas make it so much harder to stay focused on our personal recovery. Retraining our brain and rebuilding our thinking.

All those little building blocks can either make or break a person brain chemistry or cause delays in learning and being receptive to learning. Which in turn can be called learning disabilities, and behavior issues also labeled on to us by Doctor’s Hospitals, and School Districts. So, not only are being labeled/diagnosed with mental, emotional, and physical issues but, also with learning, and behavioral disorders (defiant behaviors).

The process of managing and recovering from Traumatic Brain Injuries and other Emotional/Mental Health Diagnoses, takes grueling and extensive therapy, Cognitive Talk Therapy, sometimes even Trauma Based Therapy is also needed depending on the events and the time gaps of those events. Those processes start to give this person a bit of hope, and joy which are some of the crucial buildings needed to build sturdy and long-lasting positive foundations.

Part 10

Having unsteady blocks due to the positive elements not made available during their stages of childhood development causes more confusion delay they development and growth of the brain. This process of rebuilding and relearning is so overwhelming for some individuals it takes a lot of strength, determination, coming out of their comfort zone, and relearning how to put your trust into Medical Professionals and other peers.

As slowly regaining the confidence and motivation to move on to the next chapter of their personal lives that they were lacking, they need to remember that having awareness of their situations from the past are instinct now that they have endured the rough parts. It still takes initiative to take the next steps forward.

Reprogramming our minds, thoughts, and the ways that our souls comprehend and understand the triggers, flashbacks and the emotional attachments that are linked to the past traumatic events take patience and time to retrain and reprogram.

Overriding the negative and perverted mindset and thought processes that we have learned with willingly or unwillingly depending on the levels of vulnerability, naiveness, and how available the negative influences were in their life at that time, takes determination, and strength to get to the next levels of management and recovery of those negative effects and damage that has been done.

Part 11

Facing the giants of negativity that continues to bombard us that are trying to manage and recover from P.T.S.D. and Complex P.T.S.D. still get overwhelmed with the Environmental Stresses of society as well as with the Mental and Emotional Traumatic Personal Experiences we have unwillingly been afflicted with by outside members of society.

If we learn to use determination and courage to take the next step, we can finally start getting out foothold on positive steppingstones/building blocks that have finally been laid down and sturdy enough for is to restart the rebuilding (healing processes) of those broken foundations on which we thought were the true elements for our lives to be built on.

We slowly but surely regain confidence in who were created to be from OUR Heavenly Holy Father by finding the resources through the tools He gives us through the Holy Spirit and through His HOLY Guidance.

We all start to find the purpose of life that were created to be a part of society.

Common knowledge and Common sense are what we all are blessed with as Human beings, to learn how to figure out the problems we have been put through and to learn how to use the tools that are around us and within us through what the Heavenly and Holy Father has blessed us with from birth until our present time.

Our bodies and brains are made by Our Holy Maker/Creator to rebuild and renew itself through positive and healthy influences in our lives, exercise, eating properly and other elements that are needed. When those individuals lack the milestones and building blocks in their early childhood their bodies end up taking a very long time to heal, restore, and rebuild.

The steppingstones and proper foundations that are finally being rebuilt are not only helping that person to learn how to live independently, with their renewed sense of security, trust, self-esteem, confidence, and love for others. They also are needed to accept and learn our own true identity of who they were created to be and the purpose that they were placed on this earth for. As they come to realize that they are a strong survivor, and an over comer they will start seeing victory in their lives. And the challenges of life will affect them less and less in their beings.

Part 12

Our society that is already corrupt, it is causing us to destroy ourselves and others. Most of us run to those negative influences because they are either not educated enough, to vulnerable or even to naive to know that those negative influences are not going to fix us but only harm us and sometimes cause us to harm ourselves or others that we encounter in our lives.

Those elements that were unavailable to us in our childhood like love, joy, hope, and positive affection are what most of us end up searching for most of our lives.

This society has no real long-term elements to start rebuilding the blocks and foundations that they lacked in childhood on. They might last for a few years or for a few months but, they are empty hopes, dreams, and fantasies. So, there for those people end up in the downward spiral, or just take a hard hit to rock bottom or just plain give up on life and become another statistic of suicide or homicide.

Part 13

I know this because I have experienced most of these affects and effects, I have been there done that and I don’t want to do that ever again. First of all, it is so exhausting and draining, that all I end up doing is shutting myself off to the world and to those around me that actually do care and I end up in depression and despair again. Now mind you I have had those E.C.T. treatments done actually I had 2 series done all together it added up to 14 treatments.

The Doctor’s recommended it to me because I was having server depression, and I had attempted to kill myself. The meds. they prescribed to me were not showing any positive effects, so they said that the only other option was to try E.C.T. treatments to reset the connections in my brain from thinking the plans and suicidal thoughts over and over again. I also had some attempts at that time in my life.

The E.C.T. treatments did seem to minimize the depressive and saddening parts of my brain chemistry but, I have also since experienced brain damage to my frontal lobe and some of the memory areas of my brain. My concentration and focusing parts on my brain also have some damage done. This causes me to not be able to work jobs and handle certain amounts of stress in my life, as well as other people can handle. Then again, I almost always had those issues since I was a little girl. I’m also thinking that the side-effects of medicines, and past imbedded traumas I had been through in my life also have affected many parts of my brain. Which cause me to not be able to live life like others. So many people have judged me with being lazy or not having enough confidence or scared of doing something they want done. They are so wrong in their judgments about me. I have tried with every ounce of strength in me to live a so called well rounded and successful life but, as society sees it, they judge us that have real disabilities and that need serious help, as lazy, low-self-esteem, and scared.

Now as I relearn and start to trust in those that are not toxic to me but in those that are positive and encouraging to me, I’m slowly getting the concept of who I was created to be to myself as well as to others. I was created to be loved and to show love, to be encouraged and to be an encourager to others. I am relearning to trust in the one that had knit me together inside my mother’s womb and that had planned to create me before He even created that Heavens and the Earth.

I say to Him who was and is and is to come, that I am thankful and grateful for what He has done for me and that I Honor Him, and Praise Him, and Give Him all the Glory for all the Good and Holy things He has put into my life and for helping me to get through all of the bad things in my life. And in saying that I choose to Dedicate this Chapter of this Book to Him and the remainder of this Book to Him also.

I want to Give all the Glory to Yesua Ha Shem of all of Creation!